by Judith McFarland | Jan 9, 2017 | Couples Communication, Couples Counseling, Grief and Loss, Relationship Improvement, Thoughts on relationships
When the honeymoon is over, many couples part ways with varying degrees of loss. They may just be deciding to leave rather than learn how to stay! If this is a relationship worth having, isn’t it worth fighting for?
by Judith McFarland | Sep 18, 2016 | Grief and Loss, Thoughts on relationships, Understanding and Decreasing Depression
No one feels good about being rejected. Does being rejected define how you think of yourself?
by Judith McFarland | May 14, 2016 | How Counseling Works, Internet Dating, Online Therapy, Relationship Improvement, Thoughts on relationships
About 3 years ago I worked with a couple whose marriage was coming apart for a variety of reasons. They wanted to separate gracefully and they wanted to remain friends. Following their separation and divorce, one partner immediately began dating and found a new...
by Judith McFarland | Apr 6, 2015 | Grief and Loss, Thoughts on relationships
Your relationship with your beloved pet is special and deep, and when that relationship ends because your pet has died, it can feel as though your loneliness knows no bounds.
by Judith McFarland | Jan 6, 2015 | Relationship Improvement, Thoughts on relationships, Understanding and Decreasing Depression
Although it is difficult to accept, we learn more from pain than from pleasure. Emotional pain gives us important information about our relationships, allowing us to make choices and changes.
by Judith McFarland | Nov 22, 2014 | Grief and Loss, Thoughts on relationships
Grief and loss are experienced throughout life. Reactions to losses of many kinds – death of a loved one included – progress through stages. There are some ways to assist that progress, or professional help may be needed.
by Judith McFarland | Oct 27, 2014 | How Counseling Works, Thoughts on relationships
Many people hesitate to get needed help because they feel that getting counseling/psychotherapy means they are crazy, and they feel ashamed. Needing help with relationships or mood is no more shameful than needing medical help for other issues!
by Judith McFarland | Sep 21, 2014 | Grief and Loss, Thoughts on relationships
We all go through life transitions. If we live long enough, we go through many. Some are positive, some are not. Some people go through the adaptions required by change with relative ease. Some struggle with all change. All people struggle with some kinds of change....
by Judith McFarland | Jul 27, 2014 | Couples Counseling, How Counseling Works
Often, people don’t begin couples therapy because they don’t get how it works. Here is an overview.
by Judith McFarland | May 26, 2014 | Couples Counseling, Relationship Improvement, Thoughts on relationships
Lots of people begin counseling because they want change, but change is hard. How does it happen? Is change what you want?
by Judith McFarland | Mar 5, 2014 | Couples Communication, Couples Counseling, How Counseling Works, Relationship Improvement, Thoughts on relationships
Counseling is a significant investment. Learn how to make the best use of it!
by Judith McFarland | Feb 19, 2014 | Family Issues, Parenting, Thoughts on relationships
Your adult children are leaving the parental nest. Here are tips for staying connected from a distance!
by Judith McFarland | Feb 4, 2014 | Parenting, Thoughts on relationships
How do you let go of your adult children more gracefully? Painful? Yes. Agonizing? Doesn’t have to be!
by Judith McFarland | Nov 29, 2013 | Thoughts on relationships
It’s not a myth that the holidays generate feelings of loneliness and sadness for many people. If your important relationships are intact and doing well, that’s great. But what if they aren’t?
by Judith McFarland | Jul 19, 2013 | Thoughts on relationships
Entering couple’s therapy can be scary. What should you expect? While every therapist is different, this summary of my attitudes and beliefs about how and why couple’s therapy works might be helpful.