


The Number 1 Job, The Highest Priority For Couples
The number one priority job in a couples relationship is to make your partner feel loved. If you know how to do that, I predict that your relationship will be ever more successful.

Checked Out? Why You Need To Check In.
If you want good relationships, you must be checked in. Checking in means giving your important person the right message.

Do You Choose For The Relationship?
Every choice has consequences in life. When you choose, do you consider whether your choice protects your important relationship?

Relationship Repair: A How-To Guide
Damage has been done. Do you know how to repair? Read on.

Speaking To Your Partner In A Loving Way
In your relationship with your partner, it is critical to the health and well being of both people that partners speak with respect, politeness, and yes, love. Even when people are arguing and times are tough, learning how to choose safe, respectful, loving and effective ways to communicate is critical.
Confrontation; Avoid or Engage
When you are unhappy about something your special person is doing or saying, do you speak out? Many people don’t. It isn’t just that they wait until the right time, or pick their battles. They don’t say anything. Sometimes they steam in silence,...CHANGE; Why bother? (Part 1)
Lots of people begin counseling because they want change, but change is hard. How does it happen? Is change what you want?

Communication; Notes From a Marriage Counselor
Better communication will improve your marriage. Here’s an important tip!

Couples Counseling – Make The Most of It
Counseling is a significant investment. Learn how to make the best use of it!
Managing The New Reality; The impact of 24/7 Wired Communication on Relationships
Boundaries between important relationships and work/school life are increasingly blurred by the ready availability of various kinds of technology. It can be useful and it can be distracting and intrusive. How are the significant others in your life affected by your use of technology? How are you affected by their use of tablets, smart phones, laptops, etc?
Couple’s Therapy – What It Can Do For You
Entering couple’s therapy can be scary. What should you expect? While every therapist is different, this summary of my attitudes and beliefs about how and why couple’s therapy works might be helpful.
Couples Counseling and Communication; The Most Requested Skill
Santa Rosa couples seeking counseling most often need and want the help I provide to improve communication skills.
Infidelity – Counseling; Tough It Out….or Break Up?
Dealing with infidelity is difficult. It’s important to know how to deal with such a situation.